Serving on the grand jury years ago was a very interesting experience. The jury heard only one side of the argument or case at hand. Then the jury determined if the case should continue on to be argued in court. It was difficult to refuse to send the case to court when the evidence was overwhelming against the person.
“Now I plead with you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.”
I Corinthians 1:10 NKJV
Today there is so much division in our country, our churches and even our homes. Paul encourages the Corinthian church to be unified. If we as Christians would listen to the Holy Spirit in making decisions, unity would be obvious in the body of believers. Proverbs 18 gives us some practical advice on how to avoid arguments.
“The first one to plead his cause seems right, Until his neighbor comes and examines him.”
Proverbs 18:17 NKJV
Listen to Both Sides
Before we jump to any conclusions, we should examine both sides of an issue. Whether it is at home, in church or among neighbors. It is so easy to jump on a cause we hear and think it is right. There are always at least two sides to every argument. Listen carefully to both sides.
“Casting lots causes contentions to cease, And keeps the mighty apart.”
Proverbs 18:18 NKJV
Ask for the Holy Spirit’s Help
During the Old Testament times, the Israelites cast lots to make a decision. Generally it was accepted as God’s decision. Once the Holy Spirit came to indwell believers, casting lots was not recorded again in the Bible. Christians relied on the guidance of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit resides in all believers and guides and directs. Seek His guidance before making a decision or discussing an issue.
“A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city, And contentions are like the bars of a castle.”
Proverbs 18:19 NKJV
Avoid Unnecessary Offense
Choose what you do carefully. Once something is done or said to a family member, friend or neighbor that is offensive, it is very hard to win their trust again. Our actions speak loudly and for a Christians, I believe, more loudly. Walk softly. Show love even in the midst of something you may not agree with.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.”
Proverbs 18:21 NKJV
Choose Your Words Carefully
The words we speak can do good or cause much harm. We must carefully choose what we say at all times, but especially when disagreeing with someone. Saying things that are demeaning and harmful only make the gap larger. It most likely will never change the mind of the person on the other side of the argument.
In conclusion, listen carefully to both sides, seek the Holy Spirit before acting or speaking and speak wisely.
Riley Clemmons Fighting For Me
Paula Wallace
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